Why knowing your shit and knowing your value aren’t the same thing

Understanding the difference between self-confidence (knowing your shit) and self-worth (knowing your value) is critical to your ability to show up in the world authentically.

As a Type A, high-achieving personality, you may be highly self-confident (and for good reason), but the sneaky part of self-confidence is that it involves a feedback loop of validation and recognition from others. While this is an important part of building appreciation of your abilities, it is *not* the same as having a fundamental sense of self-worth, which makes it possible - even likely - that despite being confident, your sense of your inherent value could use some work.

How do you know if this is an issue for you? If you feel a consistent, nearly compulsive, need to prove yourself, to be good enough, to be seen as valuable, then it is highly likely that despite your confidence, your self-worth could use some upleveling.

There is no way to bypass or hit an easy button to make this shift. Why is it that we expect ourselves to make quick and massive leaps and bounds when it comes to changing our psychology? We don’t have this expectation when it comes to our physical abilities, and are often much more open to committing to the physical and mental - consistent - effort that’s required to improve our physical condition, compete, or reach a particular athletic goal.

You must be willing to show up in the same committed, consistent way to see the positive impact of improving your sense of your value.

The benefits are enormous. Can you imagine not questioning yourself every time you receive criticism? How it would feel to be totally neutral if the person you’re talking to doesn’t perceive the value that you bring? To know that it’s not about you, but rather about a lack of resonance that has nothing to do with your abilities?

If you need some of this in your life, check out this podcast episode on how to do just that.